by katie giron

The idea that strict parenting causes secretive kids is not far from a joke. It is proven when kids are introduced in a household with a parent’s love, affection, and trust they are less likely to attempt anything that would risk the bond that they share with their parents. That connection between parents and child seems unbreakable to children, and It’s not in them to risk the bond between family. However, when an adolescent is raised by inflexible rules, little trust, and with parents that micromanage everything they do, they end up dishonest and problematic to help cope with the freedoms that have been taken away from them. A child’s mindset in this situation is ‘why to worry about breaking trust when there was none, to begin with?’. Kids with strict parents kids get good at hiding their entire life from their parents because they are afraid they won’t approve and take away their livelihood. It’s not uncommon to see these teenagers get an extra phone or cellular device to communicate openly with peers. Minors with authoritative guardians often become sneaky and good at hiding things like their feelings because they feel like they have no one to talk to. Teens say that having strict parents feels suffocating and they have nowhere to turn. Case studies have shown that a significant majority of the time children raised in authoritative homes parents are teaching their children to be afraid. This causes behavior that contributes to bullying and other hostile actions in social environments.

Parenting essentially is creating and establishing a child’s character. Parents work hard to make the perfect child but they forget that their child needs room to grow, They need to learn from trial and error to make their own mistakes. Stern parents accomplish nothing good except developing children that have trouble trusting people in their life. This doesn’t mean letting hormonal teenagers loose into the world without consequences, but a good in between. Every household needs set rules. Rules as strong as laws but not stunting the child’s growth physically, socially, creatively, and mentally. As the child gets older more trust should be given as well as more responsibility. That creates a responsible trustworthy child.